How To Get Out Of The Next Man's Feelings

You know, I'm just about over everyone "feeling" shit.  I'll be the first person to say that each person is responsible for the protection of their own; HOWEVER, when we get so caught up in not imposing on the next man, and end up tip-toeing around the feelings of others, we totally sacrifice ourselves, leaving our ourselves vulnerable and completely exposed.  There's an easier way of going about this process...at the end of the day, your sole priority id YOU, and the defense of all you hold dear.  You weren't created to exist in the shadow of ANYONE; its time to take your  power back...

As title states, feelings are something we ALL ehave, and at any given moment, can crawl inside the emotion and chooe to stay there.  With that being said, know that you are not entitled to any special consideration.  You FEEL; just like me.  Therefore, from one human to another, we share this, and can already relate to ach other before any words are exchanged.  Knowing that you have the identical capacity is the 1st and most earnest step.  Once you establish this, it's much easier to connect.  This is ALL you owe the next man.  As you listen, and the problem is being explained, do just that, LISTEN!!!  DO NOT TAKE IT IN!!  Remember, regardless of the situation, you are an "invited guest" as far as the conversation is concerned, this is not your issue to take on.  As an observer,, it is simply your job to be present.  Something I learned a long time ago is that people don't want your opinion, nor do they want you to take it in.  They simply want to vent, and receive validation for their words and actions.  If you attempt to to intercede in any other capacity at this juncture, you are GUARANTEED to draw back an emotional nub.  Why?!  Because, at this point, you have inadvertently shifted the focus to you and how you are feeling at the moment, making you the new target.  Now your feelings are hurt too, and an entirely new issue has been created that compounds the original problem.  The issue remains unresolved, and now they are upset with you too...

Be just as tenacious in the defense of your own feelings as you are in helping others reconcile with theirs.  By doing so it not only protects you from getting hurt, but allows you to still be there for the individual in a real and genuine way.  After all, this was never about you, so why be left feeling some type of way?!  It's time to let people own their shit...~The Queen 
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