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Breaking Up Is Hard To Do


 Don't we all wish in life there was a way to "skip" pass all the negative feelings and heartbreak associated with a breakup? I mean seriously, think about it; if there was a button that would fast forward you all the way to the point to where you felt like your full, strong, confident self, would you push it? Of course you would, RIGHT??!! If the answer is no, stop reading this immediately; this is NOT for you. You are an individual who feeds off the energy the pain is providing, and you have absolutely NO interest in healing. If your answer is a resounding YES; proceed through the remainder of the post...

When it comes to a breakup, there is surely at least ONE, if not TWO injured parties, who has been devastated. This leads to depression, obsessive behaviors, irrational emotions, etc. While experiencing this, the injured party is under the impression that they are upset of the loss of their significant other...but look at those behavior patterns I mentioned above; what does that REALLY sound like?!! GRIEF. It sounds like somebody died, and you are mourning their physical exodus from this Earth. You are in mourning all right; but not for the reason you think. What has been lost is the RELATIONSHIP itself. This is where I put your emotional maturity to the test: If it was truly love of the individual, and not the physical connection, why is it not OK for a relationship to change and evolve into something new? HELLO, your fast forward button on a silver platter!! By changing your perspective about what is actually happening to you emotionally can totally alleviate those terrible feelings of devastation. Knowing a person will still exist in your life is an incredible source of comfort, and removes that anxiety of LOSS. No, it's not an instantaneous fix; just like anything else worth having, it will take conscious effort; however, it WILL shift your focus, therefore easing your pain. Instead of focusing on what you loss, think of what you have to gain by shifting the nature of your relationship. You can be spending the time figuring out how this person would NOW fit into your life; and exactly what you will need from the new relationship moving forward; friendship IS a relationship.
Don't ever let someone invalidate the way you feel. Society teaches us that people and relationships are dispensable, and those feelings no longer matter once the relationship is over; I beg to differ. That's just not the way love works, and we damage ourselves even further by handling this utmost of delicate situations in a fashion that the heart simply CANNOT accept. The pain you are feeling is your heart's way of telling you this is not right. There is absolutely NO reason to be in mourning of a living soul. Set the parameters for the relationship's evolutionary process, then let it go. Love is is Love, and can STILL be felt in all it's forms; After all, LOVE NEVER DIES.~ The Queen
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